Failure Doesn’t Have To Be The End

Having failed to meet my daily writing goals this week has me thinking about failure, and what it means to fail, why we fail, and what constructively we can do when we fail. I’ve spent a lot of time on this blog talking about goal setting and things like that, but why do we fail to achieve our goals?

Failure can be a way of evolving and learning. If we fail with purpose. Analyzing what went wrong and make corrections accordingly. The bigger question is why we fail. Here are ten reasons people fail.

Reasons We Fail

  • The goal isn’t specific.

My goal was specific I wanted to write 2000 words a day. But, not every goal is that way. Some goals are nebulous and can change and even hard to pin down into words they are more like wishes.

  • Doubting the goal can be achieved.

At the start of this week, I started a seven-book Romance series. I needed the first book finished by the end of September, That’s a tight writing schedule. But to be honest, I have never written sixty-five-thousand words. I have doubts that I am trying to overcome. Using journaling.

  • Not working toward the goal.

I worked toward my goal when I wasn’t interrupted and wasn’t distracted and wasn’t too tired.

  • The goal is not motivating.

I was highly motivated or at least I think I’m highly motivated, but I sure did get distracted easily compared to my other books. Where I sailed through and just knew what to write.

  • Not being committed to the goal.

This is a big goal with a bunch of little goals inside it.  Being committed to this goal is essential it will be the twenty-four hour a day seven day a week job for me for a whole year. 7 books in one year is a heck of a schedule.

  • Not being focused on the goal.

I thought I was focusing on the goal when I was focusing on the business. I  took care of the Author’s business instead of writing. It wasn’t a great choice.

  • They have too many excuses not to meet the goal.

As you can tell I have plenty of excuses and they are all little things that are on this list.

  • They don’t know how to handle failure.

I don’t know how to handle failure, but I’m getting better at it. currently, or in the recent past, I would ruminate on all my past mistakes not to search for solutions or patterns that could be broken, but to wallow in missey and punish myself for my past mistakes. Now I try and look forward.

  • They get distracted.

That is mostly what happened this week I got distracted by being an author and forgot about being a writer.

  • They don’t give up

I’m not ready to give up just yet, There’s always tomorrow. To-do better. There is a Mantra that I used to use when I was a runner. Good, better, best never let it rest till your good is better and your better is best. It takes a certain amount of courage to write and somehow I’ve found that courage. I’m not about to squander it.

Ten Ways To Handle Failure Successfully

Like I said before when I fail I tend to ruminate over my past mistakes punishing myself again for those mistakes and failures till I absolutely can’t stand it anymore. It is an unhealthy way to handle failure it can turn a bad day into a bad week without much effort. Below are some ideas on how to handle failure in a healthy way.

  1. Embrace your emotions. You need to feel the way your gonna feel for a while, but don’t let it go on too long set a limit on how long you’re gonna be sad or mad and then move on.
  2. Recognize unhealthy attempts to reduce the pain. Don’t go for the alcohol, or drugs, don’t even go for the pint of Ben and Jerry’s. Instead, go for a walk, or take a bubble bath.
  3. Practice healthy coping skills.
  4. Acknowledge unhealthy beliefs about failure.
  5. Develop realistic thoughts about failure.
  6. Accept an appropriate amount of responsibility for failure.
  7. Research famous failures.
  8. Ask yourself what you can learn from failure.
  9. Create a plan moving forward.
  10. Face your fears about failure.

You need to have a healthy attitude about failure and not be afraid of it you should learn from it even appreciate it. Here are some people who failed and went on to succeed beyond their wildest dreams.

  1. J.K. Rowling was rejected by 12 publishers before her manuscript was picked up for publication by a publisher it went on to sell 450 million copies making her 1 billion dollars and a movie franchise and a Disney tie-in.
  2. Steven King threw the manuscript for Carrie in the trash can. His wife picked it out of the trash encouraged him to work on it was passed over 30 times.
  3. Dr. Seuss was going to burn his stories they were rejected 27 times he now has a national day to remember him.
  4. Agatha Christie’s first two novels were rejected the second novel was finally accepted with the agreement that the ending change.
  5. John Le Carre the author who wrote The Spy Who Came In From The Cold had his manuscript rejected.
  6. Luisa May Alcott was to keep teaching she couldn’t write and her book is now considered a classic and is enjoyed by children and adults and has been made into movies.

I guess the moral would be don’t give up and work hard. Stay focused on the right things. Do your level best.

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Twelve Signs Writing is Your Vocation

Writing is a sacred calling that pulls at your soul. Writing is a way of life. Isac Asimov said that writing was simply thinking through his fingers. Writing it pulls at me in the morning. It whispers my name long before the first light. It is in these hours that I know my vocation is to be a writer. Not a suffering writer but a joyful writer thankful that I have found a vocation in my life before I was too old to do anything about it. How do you know if you have the vocation check these out and see how many of them fit you?

  1. Daydreamers, writers are often daydreamers on an epic scale. It’s that exercise of the imagination that is important. So do you daydream?
  2. Was writing a childhood passion. Many times writers began their writing careers as children. I began my writing career by dictating my story to my aunt who wrote the story down for me I then illustrated it and we glued it together with flour and water paste. I was 4.
  3. Reading is a forever hobby. I didn’t learn to read I’m a reader. I read as much as my eyes will let me and then I listen to audiobooks. Reading is a way to learn new words and see how someone else puts them together. It gives you a chance to stretch your imagination.
  4. No writing glory no problem. If this is your vocation you aren’t in it for the money, or the fame, or the accolades. You do it because you have to write.
  5. Do you can’t stop writing once you start, or if you can’t stop writing journals because you have too many to choose from. You finish one journal and you get another one right away, so you don’t skip a day?
  6. Do you have a story you can’t help but tell and you have ten stories to tell writing may be your vocation?
  7. Do you believe Virginia Woolf when she said you need five hundred dollars and a room of your own to write so you’ve been making your own writing space since you were seven and now you’re twenty-five and you have a good job that lets you write after work regularly? You’ve planned your life around your writing.
  8. Do you hear a word and can figure out the meaning from the context, but you want to know the exact meaning, and if you find the exact right word to use while writing you consider that a good day. Then you might have writing as your sacred calling?
  9. Do you enjoy a good game of Monopoly, but go gaga over a game of Scrabble?
  10. Do you make time for writing even with a hectic schedule, and when you write do you lose track of time?

These are the signs that make you a kindred spirit with Jane Austin, Shakespeare, and Stephen King. The answer yes to these questions means that you have a vocation as a writer. God bless you it means that you are willing to make sacrifices to write. To write poems, and short stories, screenplays, and novels you are a writer you write blogs and you write magazine articles. You write in journals and notebooks and on the backs of napkins. Congratulations you are among the rare but don’t write for the adulation write for the joy of it.

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Writer’s Notebooks;

Why You Should Have One

A writer’s notebook is a blank book where a writer can engage in the fun often the messy job of being a writer practicing, listening, playing with language, and gathering images and insights and ideas. The purpose of such a notebook is to nourish the writer. It’s a place to write about small things. A place to practice writing strategies. A place to experiment and take risks. A place to set goals and work to meet them.

Tips for Keeping a Writing Notebook

  • Make it your own. Make your own writing routine, and let your notebook be whatever you want it to be.
  • Keep your notebook handy. Your notebook is only as good as it is available it’s no use if you have an idea and your notebook is nowhere to be found.
  • Get messy. Your notebook should be a place where you don’t worry about what ideas are and what aren’t.

Ideas For Your Notebook

  1. Free write
  2. Rewrite
  3. Journal
  4. Take notes
  5. Draft blog posts
  6. Sketch
  7. Study
  8. Get to know your characters
  9. Keep a list of novel and short story ideas
  10. Record names you like
  11. Consider your eventual marketing plan
  12. Collect reference photos that inspire you
  13. Practice writing prompts
  14. Write morning pages
  15. Gather information that could be useful to your career

That’s a good list of reasons to keep a writer’s notebook. It’s a pretty good idea even if you only used two of the ideas in this list. There is one more good reason to have a writer’s notebook that’s not listed here: to get stuff out of your head so you have more room to create. That’s why I have a writer’s notebook and calendar with a to-do list on it. It keeps my mind open for doing creative thinking, and that is the kind of thinking that I want to do.

If you can think of other reasons to have a writer’s notebook or if you use your notebook for something not on the list, please share it with us in the comment section. It would be great if we could learn from each other.




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  • Have the main character of your last novel introduce you to our readers.

This is Hope. She’s alright, I guess, but she damn does she makes you work for a happily-ever-after. If you’re a fan of nerdy, swoony characters, inappropriate humor and gratuitous sex, she’s your girl.

  • Without giving us spoilers introduce your latest and greatest novel or work in progress and let us know which it is and if it’s a WIP let us know when it goes live.

Before and After You is an oh-so-satisfying slow burn featuring a smoldering, smooth-talking hero and a take-no-prisoners smart-ass heroine. Prepare yourself for simmering sexual tension, banter galore and SPARKS.

  • What do you like best about your main character in your latest and greatest or WIP from above?

Leigh D’Alessandro is strong-willed and fights like hell to do the right thing for everyone around her. She’s been hurt in the past, badly, and must find the wherewithal to hope for a second chance. Watching her find the strength to confront her past, acknowledge her vulnerabilities and build a better life made me so very proud of her.

  • Tell us a little about one of your side characters from your latest and greatest or WIP?

Adesola Rojas! She’s wise-cracking professor/gynecologist who keeps it real and won’t let her friends hide their heads in the sand for long. Miles Green, Walker’s bestie, has his own charm too.

  • How did you come up with your idea for the above story?

During my postdoc at a cancer center, I met a young patient with a remarkable story. Walker’s journey mirrors some of the experience that patient shared with me.

  • What was your writing plan for this book or WIP?

I told myself I’d plot this book out, but that didn’t happen. As much as I’d like to believe I can be a plotter, I’m a pantser at heart. I was just as clueless as the characters when it came to the ending. It’s way more fun that way!

I work by day and write by night. I try to tackle the meatier scenes or lay groundwork before I leave for the gym. 8pm to midnight seems to be the magical window for me.

I fully embrace Stephen King’s advice about leaving a first draft in a drawer for a few months before returning to it.  ‘Before and After You’ benefited from that. By the time Future Me reviewed the draft, she had an even better grasp of the characters and their journey. It strengthened the book that much more.

The challenge is getting done in time to build in that resting time.

  • How do you handle writers block?

If I haven’t started the book, and the issue is firming up the story or characters, I’ll give myself space (within reason) to let them play around in my head. In this early stage of development, I find my creativity does better when I allow it to breathe. I’ve also learned how to whisper notes into my phone in the middle of the grocery store or write quick notes on my hands. Those little impressions or throwaway quotes in your brain can be a huge starting point.

For writer’s block occurring in the middle of a draft, I try to push myself along. I’m less likely to have this happen and I try to coax myself to write a little every day, just to stay in the habit of writing. I think there’s a small kernel of truth about needing to persist past writer’s block (thank you, Shonda Rhimes). A newly evolving approach that’s working really well for me is taking a small break and spending time in nature. Having distance from a plot problem can help, especially if you’re mulling it over during a hike or walk on the beach.

  • Do you have a secret writing ritual and what is it?

I love watching The Twilight Sage: Breaking Dawn Part I while writing. It never gets old, ever. Don’t tell anybody.

  • What is your writing snack?

Things I can pick up easily up and eat while wearing carpal tunnel braces. Popcorn, Doritos. A square of chocolate if things are really humming.

  • What do you do when you’re not writing?

When I’m not working, and if it’s not too hot, I love long walks on the beach. I’ve also picked up kayaking, and I’m hoping to learn how to crochet soon. I’m looking for a calming, creative habit, so I’ll also take suggestions.

  • What is your favorite season and why?

Autumn! I miss it so much. I’m noticing my books are often set in autumn now. It’s such a beautiful transition. When the sky is gray and gloomy, it just makes the autumn leaves that much more vivid by contrast.

  • What is your favorite genre to read and what do you like about it?

Romance, and some of my favorite romance authors, will always be favorite, forever and ever, world without end, amen. Some of the hardest times of my life were made bearable by the happily ever after delivered from a romance novel.

If I’m not reading romance, I’m reading horror. Stephen King is my absolute favorite horror author. The mounting tension, tense pacing, horrifying reveal . . . it’s delicious.

  • What do you spend your music so you listen to when you write? How does it help to put you in the mood?

I have a playlist specifically for sex scenes. It’s very effective. ;-p  I think I’m most likely to listen to classical music in a lost of cases, matched to the energy of the scene. Depending on how stubborn the scene is, I may stick to silence.


May is full of hope and new beginnings what do you hope spring brings you?.

I hope May sees me making further inroads with one publication, while also saying goodbye to the beloved characters in another book I’ve just finished.

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July Check-In

I thought I’d bring you up to date on things in my world. In March, my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.  My mother’s way of coping with such devastating news is to throw herself into a project she can’t possibly finish on her own. Her project for this crisis might have been to turn the house completely around, instead, she settled on digging up the large backyard that was full of beautiful grass and put it into flowers. In this project, she physically could do almost no physical work herself and could not afford to hire someone to do the work, so my sister and I worked the entire month of June and the first part of July to make my mother’s dream of a backyard flower garden a reality.

The result for my mother is a garden of delight. The result for me has been a need to let some things go to be with my family, and am now having a hard time getting things back on track. You may have noticed or maybe not you missed a couple of weeks of blog posts and then sometimes you got blog posts on the wrong days it was and unfortunately remains a little disarrayed. But I am now blogging three times a week. My YouTube channel hasn’t been as lucky. It’s been a month or more since they have heard from me. My whole 5 subscribers, deserve the same diligence that I give you, but it takes more out of me to do a YouTube post.

On Monday, I will get my first novel back from the editor. I discovered this week that there is another book published recently with the same title that I had chosen for my book, so I will be looking for a new book title. If you have any ideas, I’m open to suggestions. I am trying to finish my second novel “Catch Me” I need to write another 40000 words, but I’m afraid to screw up the story arc. I have started a new novel called “When He Didn’t Love Me” That I am excited about but don’t know when I’ll get back to. I’m concerned about marketing costs for my book. Not to mention while I’m doing marketing I’ll be having production costs for another book, the finances of being an indie author is a scary thing.

So, that’s what’s I’ve been up to. This is what I hope will be happening. I hope my father’s medicine continues to work. I hope my father is around for a long, long time to come in a healthy capacity. I hope my mother does not need another big project for a while.

I hope to have “Lucy’s Choice” edited, and a cover selected by the end of September I hope to have further editing done by the end of November and then book design done in November with Advance Reader Copies ready in January.

For Catch Me, the second novel, I hope to have that to the editor in October. I hope to be finishing when he didn’t Love Me in November. My goal for the year was to finish four novels, and I’m on track to do that writing-wise. We’ll have to see about the publishing because of the costs involved.

So, that’s kind of a wrap-up of what’s been going on and where things are. I forgot to tell you about NaNoWriMo I did not win NaNoWriMo, but I made some good friends and that was my goal, so I won NaNoWriMo.

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Writing and a Healthy Mind

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Every night before I go to bed I take three prescribed antidepressants or antianxiety medications. I take them at night because they make me drowsy and I can sleep off the side effect mostly, and then in the morning get on with my day. The question you are asking is probably threefold. First, how do you function if you take that many pills? The answer is, I can’t function without them. Without my medication, I am without a doubt a more dangerous angry at myself and other’s person. Still with taking my medication and I never ever miss a single dose ever. I sometimes feel overwhelmed with unexplained sadness or anxiety, the mean reds or the blues. I no longer try to understand I just trust that it will go away. Second, how did you get that kind of depression and anxiety? It’s hereditary on my father’s side of the family. Third, how long have you been like this? I’ve been like this since I was in the third grade. When I tried to kill myself for the first time.

But some famous writers suffer from the mean reds and blues that I suffer from and didn’t have the luxury of advanced chemistry that we have today. Sylvia Plath suffered with and was treated for depression and killed herself at only 32 years of age. Virginia Woolf filled her pockets with stones and walked into a lake. Ernest Hemingway killed himself after having unsuccessful electroshock treatments.

Studies suggest creative people are more likely to have mood disorders. Another explanation for the findings is that creativity creates mood disorders as a by-product of the lifestyle. Required in many creative fields can be punishing. For example, I’m sure you’ll all agree that writing is lonely, brutally critical, and lacks a locus of self-control. Giving control instead to agents, editors, and publishers. There is also a theory that being creative just makes you look clinically abnormal. The flow state that creatives strive for mimics markers of bipolar disorder. But, another study said that while the part of the brain responsible for coming up with new ideas only fires once or twice a day in most people for writers it fires all day long. It lets us create. We are always thinking of ways to incorporate our experiences into writing. We can’t shut down our brains to rest.

But the biggest myth is that we have to suffer for our art. It is true according to Kay Redfield Jamison, writer of Touched with Fire, writers are eight times as likely to suffer from mental illness than those who don’t pursue writing as a career. Writing as a profession creates a situation perfect for making a bad situation worse for those who suffer and an invitation to suffer for those who don’t. The work is solitary; you get tempted to work weird hours; you give up your sleep, it’s sedentary, it’s easy to fall into poor eating habits, and it’s filled with rejection and self-criticism.

Like having a life jacket before you drown or a fire extinguisher before the fire, you need to have a plan to deal with your depression or anxiety before it arrives. You may need a plan to keep it away. Once you have to deal with depression, it’s big enough to knock you off your game. So stay in the game by being social make sure you have a tribe that you look forward to meeting with regularly. Make sure you treat your writing career like you would any other career by keeping regular hours from nine o’clock to five o’clock and remember to take regular breaks. Get at least six hours of sleep at night but shoot for eight hours of sleep. Don’t forget to exercise, take a walk or a swim, just get that body moving. Eat highly nutritious non-processed food and keep the caffeine and alcohol to a minimum. Last, set goals you can control, for example don’t shoot for making the New York Times Best Seller List instead set a goal of writing two books a year.

As always, take care of your soul through journaling, meditation, positive affirmations, aromatherapy, bubble baths, and whatever other things fill your soul with joy. Whatever those things are, share them in the comment box below. And give this blog a thumbs up and subscribe please share it on your social media platforms. I love you and keep writing..

26 Words From Wise Writers


Today I thought we’d draw some inspiration from authors who have been in the trenches. Authors who have written and found success. So let’s jump in and see what kind of wisdom we can glean from those writers who have gone before us.

“Writing to me is simply thinking through my fingers,” Isac Asimov.

     “Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his work,” Virginia Woolf.

     “If you want to change the world pick up your pen and write,” Martin Luther.

     “You can make anything by writing,” C.S. Lewis

     “Start writing no matter what. The water won’t flow until the faucet is turned on,” Louis Lamour.

     “This is how you do it. You sit down at the keyboard, and you put one word after another until it’s done. It’s that easy and that hard,” Neil Gaiman.

     “Stories may well be lies, but they are good lies that say true things, and which sometimes pay the rent,” Neil Gaiman.

     “Every writer I know has trouble writing,” Joseph Heller.

     “If there’s a book you want to read, but it hasn’t written yet, then you must write it,” Toni Morrison.

     “The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter. It’s the difference between the lightning bug and lightning,” Mark Twain.

     “Villans are heroes of their own stories,” Sarah Gibble.

     “Writing is the only thing that when I’m doing it I don’t feel I should be doing something else,” Gloria Steinem.

     “We write to taste life  twice, in the moment and in retrospect,” Anais Nin

     “The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt,” Sylvia Plath.

     “The good writing of any age has always been the product of some neurosis, William Styron.

     “You fail only if you stop,” Ray Bradbury.

     “All you have to do is write on true sentence. Write the truest sentence that you know,” Ernest Hemingway.

     “One day I will find the right words and they will be simple,” Jack Kerouac.

     “Ideas are cheap it’s the execution that is all-important,“ George R.R. Murrow.

     “It doesn’t matter how many great book ideas you have if you can’t finish writing your book,” Joe Bunting.

     “I believe myself that a good writer doesn’t really need to be told anything except to keep at it,” Chinua Achebe.

     “Write even when the world is chaotic,” Cory Doctorow.

     “No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader,” Robert Frost.

     “You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you,” Ray Bradbury.

     “I can’t write without a reader it’s like a kiss you can’t do it alone,” John Cheever

     And last but not least and most appropriately.

     “So the writer who breeds more words than he needs is making a chore for the reader who reads,” Dr. Seuss.

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Are They Rules or Just Suggestions

I am a natural-born rule breaker. I never met a rule I wouldn’t at least consider breaking or ignoring altogether, but in writing, there are conventions that you just have to follow to be understood. The Grammarly app hates my word choice and finds it too wordy, but I stout worthy keep it just the way it is. I’m a writing rebel. I broke my hand last week and here I sit at my keyboard pecking away, thumb in a cast not supposed to move it. It hurts like hell, hell, which plays with my brain. I break rules. There are some rules you can’t break a question mark at the end of a question unless it’s a demand then a period is in order. You see, even the rules have exceptions. Here are ten rules writers should break on occasion just for fun and the need to write freely.

  1. Don’t give away the ending.

Give away the ending and make it work by experimenting with non-linear writing.

2. Create a likable main character.

Instead, create a complex anti-hero doesn’t that sound exciting.

3. Show don’t tell, you can break this one for;

Exposition back story (in short amounts)

Scenes and passage of time (transition)

Parts of (first person character narrative)

Stories (with a unique or distinctive voice)

4. Write for your audience, not yourself.

The thing is you should love what you write. You are going to spend a lot of time with your writing. You should love it before anyone else does.Write every day.

5. Writing every day is fine if you can do that, but if you can’t, or don’t want to, be a rebel. Write when you can.

6. Write what you know.

No. You miss the point of being a writer. Investigate, learn, and write what you don’t know. Write what will intrigue you. Write about what you are passionate about. Write what you love or what you hate.

7. Avoid pop culture references.

They say this because it will date your novel or short story and then no one in the far off future will want to read it. I’m not sure, that’s a true statement. So, follow it or break it. I can’t imagine not reading a well-written novel or short story because they mention or use pop culture.

8. Don’t leave a character alone on the page.

Hamlet would not be Hamlet if he had an entourage. First, the character has the author with him, and second, he has the reader with him the character is never alone on the page.

9. Avoid jokes.

If you can pull a joke off in your writing more power to you. I have no sense of humor whatsoever. It is not something I would I do have a limit to my rebel behavior. If you have a sense of humor and are funny if you can make it work for you I say make em laugh. Readers should enjoy your book and taking them on an emotional journey is a success and getting them to laugh with you is a win.

So, those are the ten rules writers can break. I hope you are a rebel and are breaking some rules. Let me know which of these rules you like to break. In the comment box below, I love you guys. Give me a thumbs up if you like this content and find it helpful. Please subscribe and share this with your friends on social media. Keep Writing and breaking those rules.

When Can I Call Myself A Writer?

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We are writers,

My love

We Don’t cry,

We bleed on paper.


I’m not a very




I’m a great


When can you call yourself a writer? I believe there is a matter of personal choice. For me, I still don’t feel entirely comfortable calling myself a writer, not that it has come up. Since I started writing full time. I’m pretty bold but think the words retired are crutch words that have come to my mind, and that’s sad because.

  1. I write every day.
  2. My first book is coming out in spring 2022.
  3. I am working on my second book.
  4. I write with purpose and expectation.
  5. I’ve had some poems published in magazines.

But somehow for me in my heart, I fear the look when I say those words “I’m a writer.” That look that says who do you think you are to call yourself a writer, what right do you have? It’s a bitter pill to swallow. To know that I have as much right to call myself a writer as any writer does. Yet, I just don’t have the stomach for it. What will they say when they find out I write genre fiction instead of literary fiction?

     I imagine I am among the very few who dare to follow my dreams to take the chance of abject failure. Which I haven’t even admitted as a possibility. I have done all this then why can’t I tell the dental hygienist that I am a writer and that I write Romance novels that people enjoy. That is my goal to write books that people enjoy. I should be proud instead, I’m afraid. And avoid the question and say I’m retired. It makes me sound older than I am and less than I am. It’s a shame.  

     Living somewhere between a rock and a hard place I feel bad for not having the courage of my convictions and saying I am a writer am a poet and romance writer. And I imagine the embarrassment of saying those words, the condemnation from others. So, I hide my talent until I need to come out in the light. In my blog, where people appreciate my work. I reluctantly build an author platform trying to build true relationships online with others like myself.

     When do you call yourself a writer? You call yourself a writer when you can stand in front of someone who is small-minded and defend your choice or at least not be hurt by their choice to belittle you. That’s when you can call yourself a writer. When you can say fuck you to those small-minded individuals who are jealous and aim to hurt you and knock you down to their level. So, practice saying Fuck You to those who are openly hostile to your dream, and Fuck You to those who act superior, but aren’t, and Fuck You to everyone who says you can’t make any money being a writer. Come out of the shadows and call yourself a writer. When you are strong enough.

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